Dammit

[Jack Cade]

Relationships are hard, eh? Anyone seen the manual?

[Best First]

i believe it has been undergoing rewrites for some time.

You ok tough guy?

[Jack Cade]

Well, I'm in a pretty bad mood, but I can't tell if that's because I've holed myself up to work on some very overdue projects tonight and am missing not one but two Christmas shindigs, or because it's finally hitting me that I'm in the midst of ending a ten-year relationship and can't find it in myself to go out on a limb to save it. Possibly both. Ugh.

Something always gets in the way of me completing these projects! Or rather, I'm always looking for something to distract me from them ...

[Computron]

Sorry to hear =(

[bumblemusprime]

Sorry to hear it, dude. I believe the proper procedure is to jump in Overlord's pod and leave behind a memory stick with your last message spoken by the dead in a four-million year supercut.

[Hound]

Sorry to hear buddy.

Try not to beat yourself up about not wanting to save a 10 year relationship, maybe it's just a natural end. People put a lot of pressure on themselves with the expectation that things last forever.

The best relationship I've had in my life was only a year long.

[Kaylee]

I'm really sorry to hear that, honey. Listen to Hound, he is wise. Sometimes things just run there course, and that doesn't make you bad at all. It's just a thing that happens between two people sometimes.

Hughug.

[Jack Cade]

Hey, thanks, guys.

Unfortunately, I'm pretty sure some of my friends/family don't think this is a 'run its course' thing at all, but a case of me being very selfish and foolish. It's going to be an interesting Christmas being around people who are trying to hide the fact that they're hugely disappointed in me.

Also, I keep f**king up and making her upset again. Because I'm a ****head.

[Kaylee]

I understand. That's very hard to cope with x

[Best First]

You can't stay in a relationship because of other people's expectations.

Well you can, but it is not the path to goodness.

And while it is a horrible situation to have the weight of the last ten years piled against what you think you need to do the other thing is you are not doing either party any favours trying to make it work if, in the end, it won't.

My biggest dissapointment with my last big break up, on reflection, was not that it happened, but that the person i was with had so many other opportunities to make her mind up that this was not what she wanted but was happier to let me spend years with her when i think deep down she knew for quite a while it wasn't going to last forever.

It doesn't seem like it but if you are feeling the way you say you could be doing both of you a favour by moving on.

Feel free to dismiss all of that as bollocks if it doesn't ring true

[Brendocon]

What that guy said.

There's a reason we let him get away with having the word "best" in his name.

[Kaylee]

Ditto

[Mr_Tigg]

You know I know a lot more about the situation than the other's here do, but I think that ultimately those closest to you want the best for you. It's very sad and yes there is disappointment, but it's less *at* you and more *for* you - both of you. Those people you will be spending Xmas with are your support network when all else fails, and I know for a fact that they're there to help rather than heap more guilt and disappointment on you.