Leaving for a little bit

Optimus Prime Rib · Post by **Optimus Prime Rib** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:02 am

I have alot of personal issues going on right now and I feel I am taking it out on the friends I have made here over the past 3 years. I used to really enjoy checking this site every 3 minutes to see what the latest post was. Now I just dont care anymore. I reread my posts over the past few days and realized Ive become a dick as of late.

So Im gonna take a little break from Transfans and see if maybe Ill be calmer when I return.

Dont know if or when Ill come back. Those of you who want to talk, hit me up on AIM I guess.

Shanti418 · Post by **Shanti418** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:25 am

Huh. Didn't really notice you taking it out on anybody, but I undestand the need for a break from obsessively looking for updated threads.

You'd better come back, though, Joey. I have your mySpace. I'll hunt you down.

The Last Autobot · Post by **The Last Autobot** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 1:37 am

Just take your time if you need so. Take care!

sprunkner · Post by **sprunkner** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 5:06 am

This is too bad; the Rib has often been a high point for me when browsing the site.

This solid Britishness needs to be broken by more Cajun flavor.

Shanti418 · Post by **Shanti418** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 5:12 am

Crawdads n Chips, yo. Crawdads n Chips.

Post by **Kaylee** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 6:18 am

You take care and when you feel ready just come straight back

Eline · Post by **Eline** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 7:42 am

take care

*hug*

Post by **Best First** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 7:58 am

Optimus Prime Rib wrote:I have alot of personal issues going on right now and I feel I am taking it out on the friends I have made here over the past 3 years.

i thought that was what Transfans was for?

apart from being a Don Murphy secret attack site.

Anyway, take care dude, i hope you work stuff out - people here are always willing to listen if you want talk.

Post by **spiderfrommars** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 8:41 am

Enjoy the time off if you can, and come back soon.

Obfleur · Post by **Obfleur** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 8:50 am

Get well, get well soon...

Predabot · Post by **Predabot** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 11:10 am

Bah..

I never take time off from Transfans. No matter how bad my life looks!

Anyways, yo' geet right back here as quick as you can! We need us some big* ol' southern man-love to liven this place up! ^^

*( ok, ok I'm sorry but I just had to send him off with some of the same jokes as I greeted him with..

)

Brendocon · Post by **Brendocon** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:41 pm

Predabot wrote:Bah.. I never take time off from Transfans. No matter how bad my life looks!

Ever stop to think that maybe that's what's wrong with the world?

All the best, Ribster.

Obfleur · Post by **Obfleur** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:49 pm

Ribbed for your pleasure.

Sorry

Pissin' Poonani · Post by **Pissin' Poonani** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:44 pm

Take care man-hope you get your stuff sorted out soon.

Optimus Prime Rib · Post by **Optimus Prime Rib** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:57 pm

ok I know i said I wouldnt be back for a bit but seeing as how youre the smartest bunch of people I know I need some computer advice as I am very tired and can not figure it out.

My toolbar is gone. I am using windows vista and I have tried every trick in the book I can think of to bring it back. When I restart it comes up until everything is done loading and then it dissapears again.

Rebis? Mark? Karl? anyone have any ideas?

Sorry for being a hypocrite. I figured me taking some time off was being a good friend. But I count yall as my friends as well and sometimes ya gotta swallow your pride and lean on your friends.

Impactor returns 2.0 · Post by **Impactor returns 2.0** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:27 pm

Hi mate -dont go.

Also - try creating a new user profile - log in with that. normally works...

The Last Autobot · Post by **The Last Autobot** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:29 pm

Well you actually said you were leaving "for a little bit" and that was really the case.

So stick around!

Legion · Post by **Legion** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 9:22 pm

OPR - you do what you got to do mate. If you got stuff you want to focus on in RL then it's quite understandable you'll not be around online as much and when you are you'll have better things to do than hang around on here (i should imagine

)
If you find yourself popping back here now and then, that's not by hypocritical.

Place wouldn't be the same without you around tho mate! Specially as i've only just found out you're the one who's actually in charge!

As for your Vista probs, i dunno, not dabbled with that particular beast as of yet, sorry!

Optimus Prime Rib · Post by **Optimus Prime Rib** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 10:22 pm

Different profile works fine but my friend wants to user THIER profile. I dont know what to tell em. If anyone finds anything useful please let me know.

Thanks for the kind words everyone

Professor Smooth · Post by **Professor Smooth** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 10:44 pm

Take care, man.

KingMob · Post by **KingMob** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 8:34 am

No, don't encourage him to go! he came back for a bit!

OPR stay I neeeeeeeeeeed yoooouuuuuu!

on the other hand, do whatever you want/need, you'll still always rule in my book, mate.

Optimus Prime Rib · Post by **Optimus Prime Rib** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 4:39 pm

ok well heres the deal.

on my 28th birthday I was sick as a dog and jessy kicks in the front door screaming at me about how its my fault that she forgot to turn on her alarm while she was at her moms house and she missed a dentist appointment to get a tooth pulled.

Then she goes back to her moms and IM's me later telling me that she wants a divorce because **** like this keeps happening and Im not the man she hoped I would become. Happy [composite word including 'f*ck'] birthday to me.

Now for the past month shes been going back and forth and quite frankly im sick of it. I am wanting to tell her its over but i DONT KNOW HOW. I love her. I really do. But I am not IN love with her anymore. We are great as parents and friends, but LOUSY as a couple.

Now you understand why I am a bit odd lately?

The Last Autobot · Post by **The Last Autobot** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 5:57 pm

Well, yes, I understand.

I know its difficult but you should take in perspective what you are feeling right now. Couples have once in a while problems and that doesnt mean its all over. (And sometimes you get used to having them, which is worse)

Another thing to ponder is that you cant be with someone expecting (he/she) to be different ("better") it simply doesnt work, sooner or later you will be dissapointed. You can improve in some things, but changing completely (in the name of love) is another matter entirely.

My take is talk honestly to her and try to work things out. Maybe counseling would help. And bear in mind that usually of problems are only symptons of deeper things.

Shanti418 · Post by **Shanti418** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 6:39 pm

That's totally understandable, dude.

It sounds like she's going through the same mental back and forth as you are, although initiating the whole thing over IMs is totally crappy.

And all of us on here know how much you care about her, and how much you're worked and sacrificed to try and make it work.

But if it doesn't work, and you're not happy, and she's not happy, then it should end. As long as both of you are in your children's life, that's the important thing. Don't live in a loveless marriage for the sake of the kids. That's what my parents did, and it nearly drove them insane.

Optimus Prime Rib · Post by **Optimus Prime Rib** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 4:43 am

Were officially thru

On an unrelated note. We found out that shes possibly pregnant again

what are the ******* odds that having sex 1 time in 3 months would result in that?

We made sure that the decision to divorce was seperate from any issues about a possible baby.

By the end of the conversation we were actually laughing and joking. She even gave me this bit of advice

"If you ever come across another woman like me. RUN LIKE HELL"

I was laughing while I was crying. I almost ate my gun today...

Aaron Hong · Post by **Aaron Hong** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 5:26 am

Shanti418 · Post by **Shanti418** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 5:31 am

It's going to hurt, man. It's going to hurt a lot. For a while. But you'll get through it, and you'll be happy again. You have to believe that, Joey.

Post by **Best First** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 10:12 am

Dude.

all i really got is take care of yourself - i know everyone's experience of break up's is different but i have some concept of what you are going through and everything i have seen on here suggests that you have more than got what it takes to pull through this and come out the other side in better shape than you are now.

All the best to both of you.

Optimus Prime Rib · Post by **Optimus Prime Rib** » Tue Sep 19, 2006 5:16 pm

strange life I live here

Ok.. We opened up to each other about everything. TURNS OUT shes into BDSM as well and never knew how to tell me.

So I go tell my Mistress (as in Domme not as in *bowchicawowwooow*) and she flips out on me and tells me we cant see each other anymore.

Maybe Jessy will learn how to swing a flogger.

As of right now. were not declaring the divorce OFF, were going back to "dating" each other.

And guys. you know what it means when youre 'dating'. All of the fun stuff happens again!

Aaron Hong · Post by **Aaron Hong** » Tue Sep 19, 2006 5:23 pm

God [composite word including 'f*ck'], you had us all going there.

Seriously though, now's the best time to have some blind faith that it'll work out. You go, boy.

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