ugh.

[Best First]

Oh, look, another of these type topics.

So spaek to my ex recently – there was some talk of meeting up. But I’m not over it – so its not going to help is it? All it will do is **** with my head.

She has just moved as well.

So. Was gonna send some flowers with a note. Something like this:

"Hello. Congrats on your new home. Hope you understand but I don’t think I’m ready to meet up after all. Take Care. All my love, Paul."

Which is about as many words as you are allowed.

And leave it there. And to be honest just try and forget about meeting up or ever really seeing her again becasue i think i will always be a bit angry about some stuff and yet still L*ve her and its just a F***ing ballache.

Either that or write a meandering letter saying more or less the same.

Or

"Hello. Congrats on your new home. Shame you couldn't carry the gold"

hm, maybe not that last one.

Dunno.

bah.

[Kaylee]

That sounds fine to me

You always know when you're not over things, the trick is to be able to listen to your head and not give in to the secret fantasy that maaybe if you go along it might all work out again. Obviously that course just makes you even more vulnerable and you're basically setting out on an ego suicide mission.

You've made a wise choice there imo n_n

Don't worry about feeling angry or upset with her, that will go in the end tho it might take a long time. One day you will be able to think of all the things you did without having negative feelings I'm sure

{hug}

[Brendocon]

So. Was gonna send some flowers with a note. Something like this:

"Hello. Congrats on your new home. Hope you understand but I don’t think I’m ready to meet up after all. Take Care. All my love, Paul."

"New home. Yay. Take better care of these flowers than you did of me. Watch them whither and die, bitch. Love ya!"

?

[angloconvoy]

Man, sorry to hear that. Sounds like us lot are having a right time of it. And once again Karl has coined it with as good an eloquence as any could. I'd avoid the meandering explanation, it just gives you more words to run around your head, wondering if you could have phrased them better, or if you maybe said too much. I find it hard to avoid a few of my exs, on account of social groups, and I never find seeing them especially easy, strained civility at best. But I also recently(ish) saw an ex from my more distant past, and it was actually fine, though I had no desire for any more than a quick chat in the street and to go our seperate ways. I dunno, if I had the answers I wouldn't have my topic of similar ilk. But it could be about time we all arranged a night out, somewhere trashy.

[Best First]

My nasty message would be... too nasty to write.

But seeing as i am a lovely human being i would never do that. so i went with option a.

[Metal Vendetta]

I was going to suggest the joys of Brown's in Old Street.

Cheap drinks and naked ladies. That cures most things.

[angloconvoy]

Can't currently do strippers, for reasons I can't really go into.

edit: I should however mention my reasons are personal, not legal...

[Eline]

So. Was gonna send some flowers with a note. Something like this:

"Hello. Congrats on your new home. Hope you understand but I don’t think I’m ready to meet up after all. Take Care. All my love, Paul."

Sounds good. That's all you need to say.

[Metal Vendetta]

Can't currently do strippers, for reasons I can't really go into.

Fair enough. You did say trashy though.

[angloconvoy]

True enough. Think I had something more along the lines of skanky meatmarket in mind though.

[Best First]

coming round to the idea that strippers and pron are actually just bad for you mentally, def if you are single.

thanks homies.

[spiderfrommars]

I wouldn't have sent the flowers. But then, I'm a sod.

[angloconvoy]

How about this for a business plan?

Say it with a box of beetles.

[spiderfrommars]

A box of Beatles would be just the ticket...

I'll settle for Monkees.

[Pissin' Poonani]

It won't make it any better mate, but chicks dig men with skills, and you have them in abundance. I personally would have sent her a card saying "Can you come and get your stuff out of my locker, because I haven't got enough room for my nun-chucks"-once she realises you have nun-chuck skills, her pain will far outweigh yours.

Basically, take care mate.

[Best First]

[Impactor returns 2.0]

coming round to the idea that strippers and pron are actually just bad for you mentally, def if you are single.

Does this include escorts?

Recently ive been having dinner with lots of my friends (girls i fancy actually) and I have a few girls who keep flinging themselves at me, but I really dont feel I could go with another girl right now. im so put off.

Im even off escorts!

[Best First]

coming round to the idea that strippers and pron are actually just bad for you mentally, def if you are single.

Does this include escorts?

one suspects so.

[Impactor returns 2.0]

Bournemouth has a brothel!

[Getaway]

Yorks local brothels of which there appears to be at least three have started advertising in the local evening paper - legally wrong?

BF I believe it is better to keep it short and polite. On a night out on Friday I bumped into an ex just before hitting club F - spent the next two hours in a horrible mood because of the feelings it drove to the surface.

[KingMob]

Hey, that was a nice thing to do, BF. You're a good guy.
I agree that short, polite and to the point is best, and generally - but not always - going with one's first thoughts on these matters tends to be the most sensible and is probably a response more true to who you are. And as said, it was a good thing to do.

But the nunchuks plan would also be good.

Take it easy.

[angloconvoy]

Actually, its not a bad idea, we could all go to Chinatown and buy nunchucks, just like when we were kids

[sprunkner]

Abundant alcohol and nunchuks. That sentence explains itself.

Actually, I'm now picturing Besty and Emvee chasing each other around with nunchuks, then bursting into fits of giggling, rolling on the floor and staring into each other's eyes...

They'll never agree on mp3 players, but otherwise it could be a match made in heaven-- some kind of Eastern heaven with tea parties and samurais, but heaven nonetheless.

Once my band was playing at a party. I invited my ex, who proceeded to leave with her new boyfriend, my ex-missionary pal (we were in the same mission together, not.... stop that. Stop that.) before my band played. I told them to piss off. Then I married the girl who threw the party, and got a much better deal. I do regret the piss-off, so I think you're going the right way.

[Best First]

man, you regret stuff as badly as i do.

Isn't it great being able to point out the obvious to other people but not being able to act on it yourself?

[Brendocon]

Isn't it great being able to point out the obvious to other people but not being able to act on it yourself?

Yep. It's got me through some tough times.

I'm saving up the line "you know what your problem is? You're not me. If you were me, you'd just pretend it wasn't an issue whilst you quietly die inside. Doesn't that sound so much better than making everybody endure your whining?" for somebody who really pisses me off...

None of you. Don't worry.

I have issues... I know this.

[sprunkner]

man, you regret stuff as badly as i do.

Isn't it great being able to point out the obvious to other people but not being able to act on it yourself?

In a roundabout way, you could annoy yourself not taking advice that states the obvious from those whom you usually state the obvious to, and who don't take your advice.

That sentence was practically a fractal.