Did I do the right thing??

[Darth Aux]

Some of you may remember, I recently visited Germany on a mission of.... well a mission of the heart.

When I got back we were gonna take things slow. Well things grinded to a halt and to be honest I felt used, dirty and well ignored.

I really freaked my friends out last week, I got very drunk at a friends birthday party. My other friend who was there just lost his Mother a week before and then all of a sudden I let rip.

I turned evil, walked out and then my mate Leanne came running after me and dragged me back. I busted up my arm by elbowing a table, messed up my knuckles on a wall and apparently my eyes were full of haterd. I then burst into tears surrounded by my closest friends. (Fed up of being alone, it's been like 5 years since I've had a propper partner)

I miss her a bit not as much as upon my return but it wans't doing me anygood the way things were.

So I deleted her from my contacts on MSN and blocked her, was this the right thing to do or have I made a mistake??

[Best First]

i think she at least deserves an explanation by the sounds of it.

Be honest with her.

[Denyer]

So I deleted her from my contacts on MSN and blocked her

Unless people are actively being evil I don't think there's ever reason to block them...

Fed up of being alone, it's been like 5 years since I've had a propper partner

Get settled with yourself first.

[Autobloke]

At least try and resolve things. Even if you don't get back together, you'll have parted on some kind of good terms. Hopefully.

[Kaylee]

Some of you may remember, I recently visited Germany on a mission of.... well a mission of the heart.

When I got back we were gonna take things slow. Well things grinded to a halt and to be honest I felt used, dirty and well ignored.

I really freaked my friends out last week, I got very drunk at a friends birthday party. My other friend who was there just lost his Mother a week before and then all of a sudden I let rip.

I turned evil, walked out and then my mate Leanne came running after me and dragged me back. I busted up my arm by elbowing a table, messed up my knuckles on a wall and apparently my eyes were full of haterd. I then burst into tears surrounded by my closest friends. (Fed up of being alone, it's been like 5 years since I've had a propper partner)

I miss her a bit not as much as upon my return but it wans't doing me anygood the way things were.

So I deleted her from my contacts on MSN and blocked her, was this the right thing to do or have I made a mistake??

Firstly you need closure, and by going about it the right way. Tell her how it is, tell her the harm you're suffering and that you need some time to yourself.

Secondly- look at what your feelings are making you do. You have to sit down and deal with this and the first bit of that is realising that whatever feelings you have are making you do very bad things and making you suffer dreadfully. They have to go, would be the first thing I'd say to myself.

Best of luck!

[Predabot]

I haven't had a relationship in 21 years. Aka never. However, it's not something that I feel as very heavy or difficult to deal with.

I'm certain it's different when you've gotten hooked, and just need that two-someness again.

If your asking about the breakdown at your mates party, I'd say that was quite wrong. The thing with MSN isn't quite as clear-cut tho, however, I think that perhaps you should have left a small note for her just prior to the removal, saying something on the lines of: "You used me. I'm never ever going to speak to you again." and then removed her.

But hey, it's not as if it's too late or something, in a matter of one minute you could add her again, then send her the message, then remove her, but not block her, and leave the ball in her department.

[Darth Aux]

We are talking now, I don't know where it's gonna go. Probably somewhere I don't want it to.

TBH Denyer I believed she was. I was rushed into all of this by her and whilst I was there I felt like a baby sitter.

She has a child and on the Saturday I was there she left me to babysit whilst she went to a friends birthday party. I agreed to this as it would be an hour or 2 but when I got there first it was until midnight then it changed to a I might not be home Shocked, I was.

Never mind the fact I travelled all that way to meet her. In the end her family said they'd mind the baby and they invited me along to a party they were having earlier in the evening. She still went to the party if only for an hour or so.


I was pretty much settled with myself, I had become used to being alone.

It's just that she draws me in then jabs me away and then when I get tired of the games she won't let me go. She just keeps a hint of us working out.

This is why I deleted her, it hurt too much.

[Shanti418]

Then, IMO, that crap she pulled on Saturday night basically shows you the amount of respect and care she has for you, which is not much. You don't need that kind of person in your life, but I DO think you at least should tell her where you stand now. It'll be tough, because like you say, she might be on the "draw" so to speak.