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saysadie · Post by **saysadie** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 9:38 pm

12 years older than you. Fit. Steady job... but, still. 12 years older than you.

Would you go out with, yes or no?

Stormwolf · Post by **Stormwolf** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 9:41 pm

saysadie wrote:12 years older than you. Fit. Steady job... but, still. 12 years older than you.

Would you go out with, yes or no?

Depends on the appearance and personality of the person in question.

The Last Autobot · Post by **The Last Autobot** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 9:58 pm

saysadie wrote:12 years older than you. Fit. Steady job... but, still. 12 years older than you.

Would you go out with, yes or no?

If he is the older one I dont see any problem as long as you match in the things that really matter.

If you are the older one, then he is like 13 years old there would be a problem

Hound · Post by **Hound** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 10:01 pm

I was 18 when I met my first boyfriend, he was 32. At the time it made no difference, but when you are that age, you have different desires and ambitions. I wanted to do things that my boyfriend had already done, and that caused conflict after the novelty wore off.

It can work though. I'm now 24, and if I met a man who was late 30's, it wouldn't put me off. I think age can be an attractive quality myself.

sprunkner · Post by **sprunkner** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 10:13 pm

Just go out. See how it works out.

In other news, I always thought Hound was a man, just because I pictured the TF Hound, who was more or less male...

(Double apologies if you're a gay man, H.)

(Having just checked your website, well... crap.)

Professor Smooth · Post by **Professor Smooth** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 10:19 pm

Age is just a number. I read that on a Dove wrapper just as I clicked this post. Crazy.

Brendocon · Post by **Brendocon** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 10:21 pm

The Brad Pitt is 12 years older than The Jolie Woman. Nobody cares because they're both beautiful.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 18, 2006 12:56 am

What's that bollix rule about halves and sevens?

Take your age, subtract 7, double it, if they're more than that they're too old?

Or something.

Not that any of that matters. The only thing that does matter is that your partner (or prospective partner) is someone for whom your relationship with will be a success.

As Hound said, needs, desires and ambitions change with time, so what might lead to a successful relationship in the now, might have disasterous effects later on, while a relationship that seems a little less than perfect might be more likely to go the distance.

Post by **Denyer** » Wed Jan 18, 2006 1:55 am

saysadie wrote:12 years older than you. Fit. Steady job... but, still. 12 years older than you.

Would you go out with, yes or no?

At this age, yeah. Certainly have had no reservations about socialising and flirting with colleagues who were thirty-plus.

As company, it's really a question of age of outlook. I'd guess that most thirty-six year olds would probably not have a great deal in common with me, but I'm sure some do.

Eline · Post by **Eline** » Wed Jan 18, 2006 7:58 am

saysadie wrote:12 years older than you. Fit. Steady job... but, still. 12 years older than you.

Would you go out with, yes or no?

Go out with, yes.

Consider for serious relationship, that would depend on how things are working out between you two. As it would with anyone.

My boyfriend had only girlfriends that were at least 8 years older than he, before he met me (I'm 6 months younger than he is). The last one broke up mainly because of the long-distance relationship (Europe-Southern Africa) and not because of the age difference.

A friend of mine has a steady and happy relationship with a women who is 10 years older.

What I'm trying to say:
Just go out with the guy (or girl) and have a fun evening.

Just be careful as you would on any date (make sure you can get home by yourself, don't drink too much if you know that's not smart, carry one or two condoms just in case, etc, but you'll know that).
And worry afterwards, if necessary.

saysadie · Post by **saysadie** » Wed Jan 18, 2006 11:35 am

It feels odd going into personal stuff in GD.

But it's funny, because he was concerned about the age thing and I wasn't, at first. I was just having fun, y'know? S'all good when you're just goofing around.

But now I'm going to see him again this weekend, and I'm the one going "Weeeeellll..."

It doesn't matter, in a moment. But when he's not there and I'm back to doing whatever, y'know, I'm like "He's going to be 40 in three/four years"... and it throws me a bit. Part of me is going "What the hell's he doing hanging out with a 24 year old?"

Hound wrote:but when you are that age, you have different desires and ambitions. I wanted to do things that my boyfriend had already done, and that caused conflict after the novelty wore off.

That's a part of what's in my head. How much in common can I have with someone that much older than me? Especially me, I'll be the first to admit that I'm chronically immature. I can't help but wonder how much of it is novelty factor, on both sides.

But even I know it's not something that should really merit overthinking right now. It's just the age thing that's kinda making me go "agh", and not for any particular reason other than I never really thought it'd be something I'd have to think about.

Scraplet · Post by **Scraplet** » Wed Jan 18, 2006 12:55 pm

saysadie wrote: "What the hell's he doing hanging out with a 24 year old?"

Looking for babies / a familiy in the future? No really do-able with women his own age unless he starts immediatly!

Impactor returns 2.0 · Post by **Impactor returns 2.0** » Wed Jan 18, 2006 2:26 pm

Im forever sleeping with ladys 30+ , its an addiction ok. that or they like my young body...

Metal Vendetta · Post by **Metal Vendetta** » Fri Jan 20, 2006 8:36 pm

Yes. Have done this exactly (she was 12 years older) and we had an amazing 6 months. I found I got on with her better and had more in common than any other, um, girl, that I´ve been out with.

[edit] Apart from the current missus, obviously.

Who is reading over my shoulder.

jboyler · Post by **jboyler** » Sat Jan 21, 2006 1:32 am

I'm 23 and my wife is 28.

Her brother is 24ish and dating a woman who is 30ish.

I say go for it.

-J

saysadie · Post by **saysadie** » Sat Jan 21, 2006 3:28 am

Scraplet wrote:Looking for babies / a familiy in the future? No really do-able with women his own age unless he starts immediatly!

... You're scaring me.

So... yeah. We'll see. Thanks guys.

Post by **Best First** » Mon Jan 23, 2006 5:21 pm

I think you should mak eit clear to him from the start that you are willing to quit your job and look after the kids. its only right.

good luck and all that.

IronHide · Post by **IronHide** » Tue Jan 24, 2006 1:39 am

If they still look good naked....why not.

Impactor returns 2.0 · Post by **Impactor returns 2.0** » Tue Jan 24, 2006 1:49 am

or better yet, in rubber

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