Closure

Darth Aux · Post by **Darth Aux** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 6:24 am

OK so Fai and I had a chat last night (For those that remember I got quite stressed recently over a girl)

Well I haven't heard from her in around a week and a half, then last night (In the middle of a 24 lap race on Forza) I check my PC and she's going off on one on MSN, because I won't reply, DUH I was set to away

We get chatting and apparently I got the wrong end of the stick (Probably the brown and sticky end). Anyway even though we met on a dating site, she would send topless photos, offer oral services, asked me to bring the Karma Sutra along (The excuse for that was she's always wanted to read it) and generaly lead me on. I was only a friend and nothing more. Before I went I even asked if she liked me as a possible BF, the answer was yes btw.

This girl is not a nice person! So last night really sealed it up for me, what a t*at she is.

I thought I'd post this because I was a little freaked out and couldn't get my head round it all in the past and had a bit of a vent here. Now it's easy to understand, she's a F***ING LOON!!!

Post by **snarl** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 7:42 am

Nice one mate.

If she's a ****, it's always good to call her on it. I think being as nice as pie whilst listing backing up the reasons behind why you think she is an arse and wont be talking to her any more is a blinding way to make it 1-1.

Put her in her place and raise your self esteem back up, you dont need a metalist.

Metal Vendetta · Post by **Metal Vendetta** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 11:40 am

Darth Aux wrote:Before I went I even asked if she liked me as a possible BF, the answer was yes btw.

Sounds like you did the right thing. If she wants you as a Best First, that's far too kinky for most folks :P

Post by **snarl** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 11:51 am

On a completely related note, I just had a huge barney with a girl at work who I have/had a thing for.

I was fair to be honest, got plenty of stuff off my chest. She is not happy at all. It may be eggshells from now on, it may blow over.

We shall have to see.

I do and I dont feel proud of myself right now.

On one hand I stood up for myself in a very difficult situation.
On the other, I have upset her by brutally digging up a few home truths and have potentially buried a friendship which I'm not sure was genuinely very nice or one that was just too good for her to turn down.

Darth Aux · Post by **Darth Aux** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 6:33 pm

snarl wrote:Nice one mate.

If she's a ****, it's always good to call her on it. I think being as nice as pie whilst listing backing up the reasons behind why you think she is an arse and wont be talking to her any more is a blinding way to make it 1-1.

Put her in her place and raise your self esteem back up, you dont need a metalist.

Cheers

I ended on the imortal line "I have all the friends I want and need, goodbye"

A polite f*** off I believe

Kup_1 · Post by **Kup_1** » Fri Jun 17, 2005 1:17 am

snarl wrote:Nice one mate.

If she's a ****, it's always good to call her on it. I think being as nice as pie whilst listing backing up the reasons behind why you think she is an arse and wont be talking to her any more is a blinding way to make it 1-1.

Put her in her place and raise your self esteem back up, you dont need a metalist.

And from another female..............

I agree!!!

saysadie · Post by **saysadie** » Sat Jun 18, 2005 6:50 am

Darth Aux wrote:I ended on the imortal line "I have all the friends I want and need, goodbye"

A polite f*** off I believe

right on, dude.

snarl wrote:On one hand I stood up for myself in a very difficult situation.
On the other, I have upset her by brutally digging up a few home truths and have potentially buried a friendship which I'm not sure was genuinely very nice or one that was just too good for her to turn down.

On the one, good on you for standing up for yourself.

I had a (slightly) similar sitch with a friend awhile back. Basically had some painfully honest discussion which made us a little awkward around each other for awhile but actually led to making some stuff better, clearing stuff up, etc.

At the risk of spouting a bunch of stuff people already know...

Don't know what the sitch is (and not quite sure I'm understanding the context here...) but I know that most people tend to appreciate honesty, even brutal honesty. If things don't patch, then you're probably better off without it (I know I wouldn't want to be around anyone who couldn't take/stand up to a bit of brutal honesty now and then, anyway) but (as you probably already know) if she sees the honesty as a valuable thing then things might blow over.

Either way... if you want it to blow over, then good luck... if you don't want it to blow over, then good luck.

Predabot · Post by **Predabot** » Sat Jun 18, 2005 12:32 pm

Jesus Christ & his monday morning...

That was quite a piece of work you've gotten involved with. Sorry to hear you got dragged in to her web of, well, evil games.

I ended on the imortal line "I have all the friends I want and need, goodbye"

A polite f*** off I believe

Cheers to that mate.

All you need to do now, is ignore her for a week or so, should she attempt to contact you. A must thing is to immediately remove and block her from MSN.

And you should be home-free and can put this insane ordeal behind you.

Also, man, I'm not so sure about this internet dating thing, really. I think it's best perhaps to meet someone in real life, I think then you get a better size-up of what their about.

Of course...

that hasn't acctually worked yet for me..

Darth Aux · Post by **Darth Aux** » Sat Jun 18, 2005 3:10 pm

We did meet in real life, cost me a fortune travelling to Germany too.

It was a mental situation to find myself in, you're right there Preds.

Well thanks to everyone for the support, whilst I got my head around WTF went on.

Karl, if you read this cheers getting closure on this (as you advsd) has done the job.

Happy Aux

Now I'm off to get absolutely wasted tonight. Hed Kandi here I come, YEEEEEEE HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!

Post by **spiderfrommars** » Sat Jun 18, 2005 3:37 pm

Sorry to hear it didn't work out Aux, but it sounds like its for the best. Good luck.

Post by **Kaylee** » Sat Jun 18, 2005 4:32 pm

Darth Aux wrote:We did meet in real life, cost me a fortune travelling to Germany too.

It was a mental situation to find myself in, you're right there Preds.

Well thanks to everyone for the support, whilst I got my head around WTF went on.

Karl, if you read this cheers getting closure on this (as you advsd) has done the job.

Happy Aux

Now I'm off to get absolutely wasted tonight. Hed Kandi here I come, YEEEEEEE HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!

Glad you're feeling better. Don't expect it all to sort itself out overnight but I'm sure you'll get there ^_^

Darth Aux · Post by **Darth Aux** » Sat Jun 18, 2005 4:37 pm

Ahh it's ok Spidey, it's for the better. She didn't exactly live around the corner and I should've trusted my gut instinct as I didn't trust her when we first met. It was an experience to learn from.

Besides I've had a lot more interst on the dating site recently.

Plus it was also good in that I got ass into gear and started a diet. I've lost 9 lbs so far. Not a lot but it's at a steady pace. about 2lbs a week.

It's not so bad, I met some nice people (her family, but I won't see them again. Pitty they were nice people) But then I met a nasty person too.

Who knows, I may get lucky tonight????

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