Don't know what to do

Post by **Best First** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 4:34 pm

Dude

I'm so sorry.

All i can say is it does get better. really.

Of course i also know that that means **** all to you right now.

Legion · Post by **Legion** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 4:58 pm

ditto, what bester's said.

Pissin' Poonani · Post by **Pissin' Poonani** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:26 pm

Best First wrote:Dude

Of course i also know that that means **** all to you right now.

Don't talk rubbish, I appreciate what you say.

Things do get better (fingers crossed), it's just going through it all and not knowing when it will actually get better that hurts so much.

When you're down it's easiest to stop fighting the negative thoughts and feelings and just let them trample all over you, but that doesn't help. Experience at being a champion dumpee has taught me this, but you have to fight back-worrying about being alone is rubbish, worrying that no one will ever love you again is rubbish, worrying about what the other person is up to and with whom is rubbish because you can't change it. Self doubt is the most vile of creatures, and should be shot on sight. Of course, now I'm worried that I've just stuck up two fingers and challenged fate to drag me cross-country behind his horse.

How are you doing Paul?

P.S. A big thankyou to Mr Lynch for being absolutely awesome.

Post by **Kaylee** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:37 pm

That's the spirit!!

(nice to talk to you btw ^_^)

Post by **Best First** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 6:09 pm

I'm doing better i think - a few weeks and i will be done with Manchester (for now) and can settle into London living for a bit.

Spoke to her on Monday - was weird, but okish -part of me wanted to have a go about some stuff, part ofme knows its no longer worth it, hopefully part B will continue to grow. Not sure how fussed i am about staying friends (which she wants) but we will see.

Maybe once i am getting regularly laid...

Thanks for asking.

Like your style mate - i have a pint with your name on it if you ever fancy a get together.

Pissin' Poonani · Post by **Pissin' Poonani** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 6:20 pm

Best First wrote:
Like your style mate - i have a pint with your name on it if you ever fancy a get together.

Sounds like a plan.

I think it's important to not let your own depression put the cart before the horse in situations like this-it's all too easy to think "I'll be happy if I can just get her back", but unless you make yourself happy first you won't be getting anywhere except frustrated.

sprunkner · Post by **sprunkner** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 4:38 am

I haven't been on in a while (moving to California), but man, I'm sorry, PP. This is horrible. Having lost someone I really thought I loved and gained someone I love even more, I believe things will get better.

My wife and I both suffer from depression and several of my best friends and family members deal with OCD. I hope you have avenues where you can vent your feelings and people you can talk to so all that badness doesn't get locked inside. That was the difficult part of feeling depressed for me was feeling alone. So I guess I join everyone else in saying we're here for you.

Pissin' Poonani · Post by **Pissin' Poonani** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 8:46 am

Cheers Sprunkner.

Post by **spiderfrommars** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 9:00 am

sprunkner wrote:I join everyone else in saying we're here for you.

As do I.

Sorry to hear the bad news PP... I hope things will look up for you real soon.

Pissin' Poonani · Post by **Pissin' Poonani** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 3:17 pm

Thanks Dave.

Tonight is the first of the 'I'm picking up my stuff' nights.

saysadie · Post by **saysadie** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 7:10 pm

Hey howdy... all I can say is that you've gotten a lot of excellent advice and support from a lot of excellent people... unfortunately I don't think I can add anything that hasn't already been said at this point but I'd just like to add my support as well. Sorry to hear of it... just remember you rock though, man.

Pissin' Poonani · Post by **Pissin' Poonani** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 11:40 pm

Thanks Sades.