Should i stay or should i go now.

[Best First]

Hmm.

So... thing is, i work in London, but i 'live' in Manchester. Since i split up with blah this actually means that i have been spending every oher weekend in London. In fact since we split up i have only spent opne full weekend in manc.

Now - i like living in the North - its near to my folks and a lot of my friends live up that way (Sheffield, York, Newcastle) but i don't know that many people in manc itself (independent of blah)

And i have a lot of mates in London as well.

Now i have a flat in London anyway from work, and i get a few other perks which are probably worth hanging on to - so i don't think i will transfer offices. The other thing is that

But i'm wondering if i should actually live in manc - i nneed to get rid of teh current flat - too many memories and too expensive. But then do i;

1) rent somewhere smaller in manc the short term
2) buy somehwre in manc that i suspect i will rarely visit but is a good thing to in?
3) just get all my post sent to my parents address, pay them nominal renat and live in London in the whole time? That would involve either selling my furniture or putting it in storage i guess.

thing is to get a new life going in manc i think i need to be there a bit more, but i have a great bunch of friends as it is - i don't really need to make new ones, but it would be nice to have somehwere that feels like home.

i know this has to be a decision that i make but i'm curious as to what people think.

[Obfleur]

I dont know anything about London, England or Manchester.
But if my work and friends were in London, I'd move there.
Thats all I can contribute with.

[snarl]

Purely from a selfish point of view, move to London so we can go out on the lash at the W/E.

[Best First]

the other thing i should probably add is that if i move to LOndon it is almost impossibel to transfer back to the North. hmm.

[snarl]

The north is full of coal mate.

[Optimus Prime Rib]

Id move to London if there were an Outback there in need of management

[KingMob]

I guess it depends on just how committed you are to the idea of The North. Because if you have a job, friends and a flat all in London, then it seems kinda sensible to just move there to me.

Your North friends aren't in Manchester, so including them in reasons to stay in Manc seems a bit cheaty, as seeing them presumably means travelling anyway ie to Newcastle, and you are clearly used to travelling between cities a lot.
And your parents are your parents and always gonna be there for you no matter where you are living.

And you don't want to change offices. Renting in the short term is a waste of money, IMHO. And getting a 'home' going in Manc sounds like it wil be a large investment of cash and time for no guranteed return (although if you actually buy another flat there, stick your furniture in it and then decide to go to London you can rent it out £££££)

I wish I had to choose between 2 places to stay, me and the missus are having a hell of a time finding a new place to stay up here (due to having to leave our current flat) .

[Pissin' Poonani]

I'd go with London too.

The streets are paved with gold, apparently.

[angloconvoy]

I guess it depends on how Much its worth to you to be in manc. Is it worth paying for a flat there if you're only spending a few days a month there?

Buying somehere could be a good investment, but property seems a bit wobbly at the mo. And if you ever did go up north to live again, you could always stay with your folks temporarily while you install yourself. Also, it can be hard to creat a new social life for yourself in a city where you only spend short amounts of time. Still, there are likey other reasons you want to stay in manc, or it wouldn't be such a dilemma

[Brendocon]

I'd go with London too.

The streets are paved with gold, apparently.

That ain't gold...

I echo the sentiments of Pops. Though I'd probably stay in London due to the mental associations with Manchester... distance is a good thing, especially if there are few(er) friends up that way. Less ties and the like. The parent/post thing could work - tis what I do.

[Impactor returns 2.0]

The north is full of coal mate.

there u have it!

[Eline]

the other thing i should probably add is that if i move to LOndon it is almost impossibel to transfer back to the North. hmm.

Why is that?

[Predabot]

London baby. Aint nuthin' like getting packered whilst looking out of the Big Ben.

[Denyer]

2) buy somehwre in manc that i suspect i will rarely visit but is a good thing to in?

Bricks and mortar tend to be a good investment. If you aren't living there much, you can also afford to do a place up gradually over time and not be much bothered by its decor/etc in the meantime.

[IronHide]

Come to the states. Visit Oklahoma.

We'll chill.

[Computron]

Come to the states. Visit Oklahoma.

We'll chill.

I'm sorry, but when did Oklahoma become "cool"?

[IronHide]

Hey. I never said that.

I just said we'd chill. Drink a little bit. Okay a lot. Then kick back, play some games, watch some movies, drink some more, then pass out somewhere on top of a sheet of bubble-rap as to prevent yacking on the carpet.

Never once did I refer to Oklahoma as 'cool'. NEVER!

[Optimus Prime Rib]

Louisiana this time of year, is where its at


Mardi Gras Baby!!

[Best First]

2) buy somehwre in manc that i suspect i will rarely visit but is a good thing to in?

Bricks and mortar tend to be a good investment. If you aren't living there much, you can also afford to do a place up gradually over time and not be much bothered by its decor/etc in the meantime.

yeah - i'm thinking if i get a 2 bed place and continue to coin the benefits i can rent out the second room and let the place pretty much pay for itself.

gotta be better than renting.

[Dylan]

I must say, Paul, I'm jealous of you (in a healthy way). You are in a position to actually have a second place to live.

Respect.

And best of luck with your decision.

[spiderfrommars]

I must say, Paul, I'm jealous of you (in a healthy way). You are in a position to actually have a second place to live.

Respect.

And best of luck with your decision.

Indeed!

Good luck Paulo.

[Best First]

I must say, Paul, I'm jealous of you (in a healthy way).

but thsi has been true for years now, yeah?

[Dylan]

Naturally!

[saysadie]

so'm I actually. If I hadn't wasted so much time being afraid and feeling sorry for myself I might have gotten somewhere by now... but I'm trying not to see things as wasted time. Time spent learning maybe, I dunno. Positive spin and **** like that.

I'll back Denyer's suggestion, also. If it's an available option, go with it says I.

[angloconvoy]

Meh, we all waste time on this and that. But like you say, its only a waste if you never learn.

[Guest]

London baby. Aint nuthin' like getting packered whilst looking out of the Big Ben.

Spend a lot of time inside giant bells, do you?

yeah - i'm thinking if i get a 2 bed place and continue to coin the benefits i can rent out the second room and let the place pretty much pay for itself.

gotta be better than renting.

Landlording, eh? Gotta be pretty shrewd to keep up that gig. Pacific Heights 'n all.

[Best First]

this is driving me mad.

some days i have a plan.

other days i feel like i don't have a clue what i am doing or what the best option is.

i don't want to leave manchester behind, but i wonder if that is for the wrong reasons.

but i'm getting kind of sick of living between 2 places.

i don't h ave a ****ing clue what to do and the longer it takes me to figure thing sout the longer i am stuck paying £750 rent.

fark.

[Obfleur]

Get the [composite word including 'f*ck'] out of Manchester?
"Start fresh" in London (even though it isn't that fresh).
It's close to work if I understand things correctly.

I dont know **** about Manchester or London though. But I would've move closer to work, and leave Manchester behind me.
Especially if you think that you're still there for the wrong reasons.

[Best First]

yeah - but i'm totally unsure as to whetehr i want to stay there or not.

plus if i move to London i lose a ****load of perks.

[Metal Vendetta]

There are plenty of strip clubs in London where you can get your 'perks'.