Dating

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Sun Jan 09, 2005 8:29 pm

I was wondering...

Would you guys (and girls) ever date anyone even though you know it would never work out? Or would not even result in a one night stand or anything?

Just a pleasant conversation, and nothing more. Or is that not the point of dating?

I feel real silly now.

Obfleur · Post by **Obfleur** » Sun Jan 09, 2005 8:37 pm

Yes. I would date someone even though I knew it would never work out (I even did it two months ago).
Who knows - the guy/girl might be really nice and become sort of friend (the one I met was a total idiot though. But her nipples were pierced so I couldnt say no to a cup of coffee).

Post by **Best First** » Sun Jan 09, 2005 10:25 pm

i'd do a one nighter as long as it was clear that the other person was in the same frame of mind.

i guess you could extend that out - i'm sure there are people out there who just **** regularly and thats it - as long as its a mutual arrangment fine, nit my style tho i think.

other than that i don't really think its fair to be with someone if you know its not going to last forever - granted it may not last for ever in many cases, but knowing that you are planning on ending it at some point but not letting the other person know strikes me as a sh*ty thing to do.

but basically the main thing i think is making sure you are both on the same page.

sigh.

Brendocon · Post by **Brendocon** » Sun Jan 09, 2005 10:32 pm

Dylan wrote:I was wondering...

Would you guys (and girls) ever date anyone even though you know it would never work out? Or would not even result in a one night stand or anything?

Just a pleasant conversation, and nothing more. Or is that not the point of dating?

I feel real silly now.

You mean spending an evening in the company of somebody, without any pretense or desire on either side for anything to happen?

I do that all the time. I call it "going out with a friend."

Or is this stick the wrong way round?

saysadie · Post by **saysadie** » Sun Jan 09, 2005 10:35 pm

Dylan wrote:Would you guys (and girls) ever date anyone even though you know it would never work out?

I think that bit accurately describes almost every relationship I've ever had, Dylan. Not that there were all that many tbh... they weren't all horrible though.

Would I still? Prrrrobably not... mm, toughie. It depends on the person and the situation. Like Ob's said, you could just become friends with the person as a result, and that's nice... and like BF said, y'want just to get in their pants, fine as long as you're both on the same page. But it's always best to be honest about things from the getgo IMO.

Redstreak · Post by **Redstreak** » Sun Jan 09, 2005 11:24 pm

Dylan wrote:I was wondering...

Would you guys (and girls) ever date anyone even though you know it would never work out? Or would not even result in a one night stand or anything?

Just a pleasant conversation, and nothing more. Or is that not the point of dating?

I feel real silly now.

Eh, don't feel silly mang. But as was said, it's kind of like just 'going out with a friend'. I'd never rule out the possibility of getting any action at some point or another because things are just unpredictable enough for that to happen. But I've no problem in having a female friend that I'll never get with, as the insight provided is invaluable; having a friend of the opposite sex helps you learn about the opposite sex in my experience.

Metal Vendetta · Post by **Metal Vendetta** » Mon Jan 10, 2005 2:21 am

Well for me "dating" is taking someone out when they both are definitely interested in seeing more of each other, anything else is just going out for a drink (or cinema, or whatever). I often go out with girls even though there's no romantic connection...it's just a chance to spend some time together and have fun.

As for one night stands, well they seem to happen when I least expect it. I'm usually genuinely shocked when they do, so I can't offer much advice there.

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Mon Jan 10, 2005 6:46 am

Thanks for the input guys.

I am probably going for a drink then.

Obfleur · Post by **Obfleur** » Mon Jan 10, 2005 6:56 am

Wooo, go Dylan!

Eline · Post by **Eline** » Mon Jan 10, 2005 7:33 am

Best First wrote:other than that i don't really think its fair to be with someone if you know its not going to last forever - granted it may not last for ever in many cases, but knowing that you are planning on ending it at some point but not letting the other person know strikes me as a sh*ty thing to do.

I think most of the time you really don't know if it will last forever or not. The first time you just want to enjoy together, and see what will happen. If you only have a relationship with someone you know is the love of your life, then you might have no relationships at all! Love can grow and develop over time, if you give it a chance.

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Mon Jan 10, 2005 6:08 pm

I definitely agree, Eline.

And Brend: yes, going out for a drink with a friend is one thing, but then you're already friends.

Thanks again for the input, people. I'd tell more about my social life regarding love etc, but I don't think this is the place. Cheers.

Hound · Post by **Hound** » Mon Jan 10, 2005 7:03 pm

I love going on dates, I love the excitement of meeting new people and not knowing exactly what is going to happen.

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Mon Jan 10, 2005 11:22 pm

Hound wrote:I love going on dates, I love the excitement of meeting new people and not knowing exactly what is going to happen.

Thanks for saying that, Ben!

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